Valentine's Day isn't just for couples, it's about celebrating your love for yourself - and it's easy to do with a few simple tips for singles from sexologist Dr. Jess
Intro By Sarah Schofield
Popular Toronto sexologist Dr. Jess O'Reilly is no stranger to her clients' most personal, and intimate questions. With years of experience as a speaker, the author of three best-selling books, and a regular on Global TV's 'The Morning Show', Dr. Jess takes a moment to share with Stir, her top tips for singles who may be feeling left out on Valentine's Day.
By Dr. Jessica O’Reilly
Valentine’s Tips for Singles
V-Day is just around the corner, and you may be feeling left out as your friends, and neighbours scramble to plan the perfect day of romance. But, while they’re shopping for overpriced roses, and dining out at packed restaurants with uncreative set-menus, you too should be celebrating your love — for yourself, and those near and dear to you.
Check out these five tips to celebrate as a single this Valentine’s Day:
1. Hang out with your favourite couple. Rather than avoiding love, and romance, embrace it. Trust me - you’ll make their dinner conversation all the more interesting, and since love can be contagious, you’ll leave feeling refreshed, and more at ease with your relationship with yourself. Don’t be shy about inviting yourself along — many couples celebrate Valentine’s Day as a matter of perceived obligation, so your company will likely be openly welcomed.
2. Take your parent(s) out. You probably received your first Valentine’s Day card, or chocolate from them, so if you’re lucky enough to have them in your life, treat them to a night out, or a home cooked meal.
3. Plan a date with a friend. If you insist on going out for dinner on February 14th, crash the couples’ party, and enjoy an evening of laughs with a friend. If you don’t have any single friends, hit up one of your married ones — you’d be surprised how many don’t care to celebrate this hyped-up commercial holiday with their partners.
4. Volunteer in your community. Whether you opt to work with kids, visit a retirement home, or sort through donations at your local food bank, volunteering will enrich your life in more ways than one. Not only is it linked with high self-esteem, low blood pressure, lower rates of depression, and longer life spans, but when you engage in activities that boost your psychological, and physical health, your concerns related to being single will likely subside.
5. Create a “me” tradition. Pick an activity you love, or have always wanted to try, and book it in advance. Go rock climbing, take a cooking class, visit the museum, learn to sculpt, attend a salsa workshop, take a hike, try a new recipe, or go skiing. Make this an annual tradition you can do alone, with a friend, or with a new love for years to come.
Dr. Jess is the author of three best-selling books (The New Sex Bible, Hot Sex Tips, Tricks and Licks and The Little Book of Kink) and her advice reaches millions each month via international media outlets including Showtime, Cosmopolitan, Women’s Health and Men’s Fitness. You can catch her every week on Global Television’s national program, The Morning Show dissecting the latest research related to love, dating, marriage and sex.
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